I’m frustrated. As a matter of fact, I’m downright pissed off. Many men are choosing not to exercise the intellect, tact, or class that God gave them and it’s elevating my blood pressure to a dangerous level. In other words, I’m gonna blow.
The anonymity of the net allows many to forget that even though I’m a kinky sex blogger who is also a member of a fetish site, I’m a woman with feelings and I deserve respect. So, if I’m asked if I really like a guys dick in my mouth, the answer will be, “fuck off.” And if receive a DM asking to see the video I made for my boyfriend, expect that shit to be posted on Instagram. Oh, and to the guy who asked if I forgot to open my legs, what does that mean?
Anyway, I found a journal entry on Fet’s Kinky & Popular page this morning that resonated with me. I threw my hands up and shouted, “Yes! A man who gets it!” So, I thank you, Mr. Zeitgeist, for penning the words many women have been screaming; kinky and vanilla alike. And thank you for giving permission to share.
The Truth About Kinky Women
This was written in response to a FetLife post. The poster was wondering why no one was responding to his profile or his entreaties to be invited to parties.
You want to meet a girl that you can explore your kinky side with. That’s wonderful.
Let me ask you something:
- Do you have a match.com or OK Cupid a profile that says “I’m a guy. I’m looking for a girl. If you’re a girl or know a girl, would you send her to me please?”
- Suppose you’re into stamp collecting. Do you go into stamp-collecting forums and say “I’m a guy who thinks he may like stamp collecting, and I’m looking for a girl to fuck and teach me about stamp collecting.”?
- Do you see a girl at Starbucks drinking coffee and say “Hey, I like coffee, too. Wanna fuck?”
Every time you post on here asking for people to “help you out,” that’s exactly what you’re doing.
You seem to think that just because a woman is into getting tied up, beaten, and fucked in the ass, she’s somehow different from a “normal” woman. You seem to think that just because a woman likes to have sex, talk about sex, and sometimes be naked in front of people, she should want to do that with you, without knowing anything at all about you except that you like women to get naked in front of you.
Submissives aren’t submissive to everyone
You’ll hear submissives say “I’m submissive, but I’m not yoursubmissive.” No matter how many times you’ve read The Story of O, there is no chateau full of submissive women who are available on demand to anyone who wants to use them.
Kinky women are not whores
Some kinky women may like it when their partner calls them “whore,” but they’re not sex workers. They’re not in the business of making sex of any sort available to all comers. (And contrary to popular belief, there is not a rule that actual sex workers have to accept whoever is willing to pay them.)
Kinky women are not easy
Some kinky women have multiple partners. Some women will do some sort of limited play with people they just met. As a rule most women will not get intimate with a guy they know nothing about. Kinky women are no different.
Kinky women are not objects
Sure, some women like being objectified, to be used as furniture, ashtrays, fuck toys, even toilets. But you know what? The women who like that trust the people who do that to them, Do you know why they trust them? Because they know them as people. They have connected as human beings before they connected as kinksters.
Kinky women have feelings
Do some kinky women want to be humiliated, degraded, hurt, and used? Absolutely. This may be hard to understand, but while they may want all those things, they want them in a supportive, trusting, and caring environment. You call my girlfriend a bitch, she’ll kick your balls. I call her a bitch, and she melts in my arms. See the difference?
BRAVO!!! *standing up in my chair, cheering loudly* What an awesome thing to read and know that it’s being shared. I hope it goes viral. Sending Mr. Zeitgeist a virtual hug!
~Jenny
Isn’t it fantastic?
THIS THIS THIS
Holy shit yes! This man is awesome.
I know! I think I may love him.
Great fucking post!
Thank you! He said it perfectly.
Some kinky women may like it when their partner calls them “whore,” but they’re not sex workers.
That just made my whole night.
Exactly!
This post wins the internet. I’d like to hand it out at parties to people who try to get right to the ‘wanna fuck?’ without having an interesting conversation first.
I think you should put it on a t-shirt and direct them to read your tits.
BWAHAHAHA! Now I know what to get Alyssa for the holidays. Hell, I’m buying a pack for us too!
I remember seeing this in K&P and applauding. I know I have no real claim to this, but guys who communicate like those mentioned in the post make it near impossible for those of us who’d actually like to get to know you women before we get to your woman-parts. It gets worse seeing obviously uneducated, illiterate men attempt to assert their “dominance” online. Sorry for the rant.
No apologies necessary! It’s refreshing to see that the insensitivity and stupidity of some men frustrates other men.
I read this a long time ago on Fet and like you I was cheering as I did. Personally I think it should be required reading for EVERY newbie on the site and I have certainly been to few events where it would be great to have printed a hand out for all the ‘party goers’ to read.
Mollyxxx
I agree! We should riot, naked, of course, and petition the creators of Fet to make the read an agree/disagree requirement when creating an account.
Men in the kink lifestyle get treated just as badly, as an object, a stepping stool or worse and have feelings as well, deserving of the simplest gestures of communication which is shockingly rare. In my experience so far the kink world is actually worse on that level as the “vanilla” (hate that term) dating world. Some suck, some don’t, men and women alike and I have ran into more than my share of people that simply just use.
Well about time..women should be respected at all times..n yes most men do love kinky women..I know I do..men don’t be asswholes..show women respect and you will get a lot further with them..be open minded to what they may ask of you its only fair..