Darling Nikki,
I’m a long-limbed, lanky 6’3” man. I want to enjoy sex with my partner from behind, but when we’re on our knees the parts don’t line up so well. It takes a lot of stretching to get so low. Can you suggest any positions for such big size disparities?
Sincerely,
Tall Man
Oh my stars, Tall Man, I haven’t been called “Darling Nikki” in ages! *ahem* But it’s not like the song was written about me or anything. That would be…pfft, that’s crazy. I mean seriously, the odds are like a bazillion to one that it was me. I confess there are some uncanny similarities, but it wasn’t me. It wasn’t!
*wipes brow*
Where were we? Better sex positions for big size disparities. Right. Listen, sugarbritches, one of the fantastic things about sex is that there is no wrong way to do it. Except fucking like a jack rabbit. That’s wrong, so very wrong. Anyway, sometimes we have to get creative to find what works best for us. We experiment. It’s like science, but naked.
The first step to successful experimenting is opening the lines of communication. Don’t be embarrassed to tell your partner you want to fuck her from behind with less contortion. Have her lay on her belly with one or two pillows under her pelvis and voila! It’s like doggie style, but lazier. Plus, it’s a great position to nail her g-spot. It’s a win/win. You can also sit on your knees between hers and grip her hips, moving her back and forth. Or suggest she wear heels and pull her to the edge of the bed and stand on the floor behind her. Okay, so the heels don’t add to her height in this scenario, but they’re hot, right?
Don’t forget that communication goes both ways. Her needs are important too. Ask what they are and if she needs to feel the intimacy of looking into your eyes and not your sternum during missionary sex, rest her legs on your shoulders and use your hands or elbows to support your weight. It will put just enough distance between you for the connection she needs.
Another sure fire way for the naughty parts to match up is for her to sit on your lap with her legs wrapped around your waist. And if you’re a big fan of kissing like I am, this position should give her enough height for some hot and heavy tongue action. Don’t stop there though. Whether it’s Cowgirl or Reverse Cowgirl, I’ve yet to meet a man who doesn’t enjoy watching a woman bounce up and down on his cock, so lay back and let her go. This is also a great position for anal sex because she has complete control of penetration on top and you have an all access pass to her clit.
You’re welcome.
Sometimes there are hurdles to overcome to have the sex we want and that’s okay. With a little ingenuity and a whole lotta communication and willingness to experiment, you may find that those obstacles are nothing more than minor speed bumps on the road to deeper intimacy and mind blowing sex.
*hugs*
Nikki
Just wanted to voice an option here. I am 5ft and my husband is 6ft 3. We definitely don’t line up for a lot of things. Sex while standing up? Forget it, not without risking some extremely high heels or boxes. heh. As far as getting fucked from behind. what works best for us, is if my shoulders and face are to the mattress and my ass is up in the air. Lots of back arching on my part. If I get up completely on my hands and knees, with my arms fully extended, it doesn’t work for us, but with my other partners, it does. It all depends on length and shape really. When we lived in the states and had a nice TALL bed, I could lean over it and I was at the right height and my husband would stand behind me. Now that I live in Europe and the beds are just a few inches off the floor, doesn’t work for us anymore.
I admit that I never really thought about height discrepancies can be until this question was asked. And I can see where it can be challenging.
Thank you for commenting, Mina!