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My teen sat cross-legged on the center of the island while I made coffee a few days ago; masturbation and the importance of it was the topic of morning conversation. It was a successful chat that I’ll share another time, but the detour the talk took opened up a disturbing can of worms.
“Guys don’t believe I’m a virgin,” she said.
My immediate thought was aaaaand another generation takes the torch, but I wanted to know the reason behind their disbelief. Was she purposely leading them to think otherwise? Had something happened that she had not shared with me?
I quirked an eyebrow. “Are you?”
“Really, Mom?”
“I had to ask.”
“Yes, I’m a virgin, but they don’t believe me because they say I’m too pretty to not be having sex.”
The fuck?
“To begin with, it’s none of their fucking business whether or not you’re a virgin. And second, they assume you’re having sex because you’re pretty?”
“Yup.”
“That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. And you realize that’s slut-shaming, right?”
She nodded.
Then it hit me- regardless of how a female behaves, dresses, or looks, she’s automatically a target for slut-shaming for simply being female, and this is unacceptable.
