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  1. Swinger House Party

    July 8, 2014 by Nikki Blue

    The tiki torch in the front yard told us we were in the right place. Admittedly, I was a little nervous about the swinger party. It was our first and I had no idea what to expect. Mr. K was anxious too, but his worry differed from mine. Again, he expressed his fear of not being able to get hard in a group setting. Again, I laughed, blowing out a breath when he took my hand as we walked toward the front door. He seemed to sense the familiar flutter of wings as the butterflies flitted around in my stomach and he worked to calm them, reminding me that, as always, we would leave if the right vibe wasn’t there or if we didn’t connect with prospective playmates. He didn’t need to say it out loud for me to know it was true, but there were times when hearing the words gave that little reassuring boost and this was one of those moments. Like he knew it would, his affirmation settled my unease, and by the time we stepped over the threshold into our first house party, I was sure and tall in my stilettos. Seriously. I’m like 5’10” in heels. Swear.

    The hosts, J & M, were super gracious, greeting us with shots of something strong and a tour of their home. Early in the night, the ambiance was what you would expect to find at any friendly gathering. There was food, booze, music, and porn. Okay, so maybe porn playing on a big-screen TV isn’t the norm at just any kind of party. Nor was the supposed “down to fuck” agenda of the attendees. But that was where we were confused, because as the night crept on, no one was fucking. They weren’t even making out. We questioned whether or not we were really at the right place, more than once asking each other why aren’t people fucking? WHERE IS ALL THE FUCKING?

    We rolled with the flow of the evening, drinking more shots of something high on the proof scale while we mingled and chatted about life in general with other swingers we’d met. Some poked fun at my southern twang while my feet ached and a trickle of sweat rolled down my back. I gathered my hair on the back of my head, hoping for some sort of air circulation to cool me down a little. It was hot up in there, y’all. Mr. K tried to help, exposing my barely covered ass to the roomful of people behind us as he lifted my dress. Now that I say that, though, I wonder what his motive truly was– cool me down or show the ass he worships.

    Still, no one was getting busy, and the the bulge in Mr. K’s pants told me whether it was alone or with others, he was ready to fuck.

    I was aware of trailing eyes as Mr. K led me up the stairs to the master bedroom, and with the door ajar, he slid my panties down from underneath my dress and off over my heels, pushing me back on to the bed. As he opened my legs wide, I noticed others watching from the hallway. I found the idea of being watched incredibly hot, like porn, but without the cheesy background music. I moaned loudly, gripping the bedding I lay on top of when my orgasm ripped through me. When I opened my eyes, I found J standing beside the bed, watching as I came again. Mr. K asked if he would like to taste my pussy, and when I gave my permission, J dropped to his knees just as Mr. K shoved his hard cock into my waiting mouth. Being both devoured and used was an amazing feeling.

    After J made me come, we exchanged thank you’s as he left the room, giving Mr. K and me the time we needed to regroup. He held me close, looking at me with limitless love in his eyes before he kissed me deeply. I relished the moment of intimacy before he stuffed my panties into his pants pocket while I checked myself in the bathroom mirror, doing what little I could with my sex hair.

    We wandered back downstairs as if nothing out of the ordinary had happened and for us, I suppose, it hadn’t. We sat on the sofa with W and L, a couple we’d chatted with earlier. Mr. K and I both found L super sexy and knew right away we wanted to fuck her, but she was confused– and a little drunk –about my sexuality. She couldn’t tell if I was into women.

    Here’s the thing– I love women. I love the soft curves and the taste of their bodies. I love making them writhe with pleasure, but I don’t consider myself to be bisexual. I am, however, heteroflexible, and what that means for me is that I need Mr. K’s supervisory penis in the room. It wasn’t the time or the place to explain my sexuality to her, though, so I leaned over Mr. K’s lap and kissed her lovely mouth. I didn’t need any prodding to kiss her and I didn’t do it to please Mr. K. I kissed her because I wanted to taste her soft lips; I kissed her because I wanted to fuck her.

    Mr. K said it was the hottest thing he’d ever seen; even hotter than what I did to her upstairs a few moments later. He confessed he will be masturbating to the memory of it for a while to come. Heh. Come.

    As we thanked our gracious hosts for an amazing night, I couldn’t help but giggle at M when she pouted that she didn’t get to at least see my boobs. So I showed them to her in the middle of their living room, because really, how could I not?

    After Mr. K fed me the best burger and chocolate shake I’d ever had, we showered and snuggled into our bed. We made love and held each other close, talking about the events that had taken place during our first swinger party. He expressed his powerful love for me, again saying I’m the best girlfriend ever because I am, obviously.


  2. Bangin’ Basics: A Guide to Group Sex

    April 10, 2014 by Nikki Blue

    When Mr. K and I added swinging to our sex resume, we were excruciatingly specific about our wants, limits, and expectations. Simply fucking another man and woman in a full swap, different room– or same room –scenario held no appeal to us. We wanted a tangled pile of body parts, shared orgasms, and a pleasurable daisy chain of sorts. And what we needed was to always touch and be a part of whatever it was the other was experiencing in that moment. And because our wants and needs are what they are, “dating” other couples can be tricky. Setting out to mesh two personalities together is challenging enough, but working with four of them can be extra sticky. Heh. Extra sticky… Get it?

    <ahem>

    With that having been said, swinging is really no different from dating. In fact, it’s the same thing. Even with another couple, you will still have first date jitters, naked blunders, and sometimes, people just don’t click. And that’s okay. All of it. There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to swinging. However, if you are taking the sexy skillset into consideration, there are a few words of advice I would like to offer. Of course, it should all be taken with a squeeze of lube. And a condom. Definitely a condom.

    1. Having snacks and beverages of some sort on hand is a super fantastic idea for that sustenance intermission from group sexy-time, and trust me, you will need one. But, do NOT refer to a pause in the action as a “first quarter food break.” Or any sports related analogy, for that matter. And for fuck’s sake, let the woman eat without her boob in your mouth. It’s just weird.

    2. Orally sharing your man’s cock can be loads of fun, but it’s a difficult concept for some to grasp, apparently. And while I understand not all men are fluent in the language of cock, if you consistently try to stick your tongue into my mouth while I am enjoying Mr. K’s wonderfully hard cock, I will reach a point where I shove your mouth on it until you gag. Probably.

    3. If you play with a couple you have met in an online community for swingers, chances are they’ve taken the time to write a detailed profile, listing their experiences and fantasies. The point of it is to establish common ground and mutual desires. It’s not to be treated like a sexual bucket list. Remember, sugarbritches, Rome wasn’t built in a day, and the amount of trust required for double penetration isn’t either.

    4. Respect everyone’s limits. When a couple says ALL anal play is off limits, it’s not an invitation to push it. Whether it’s sneaking licks of her asshole or trying to shove an unwelcome vibrator up his ass, stop that shit.

    5. It seems some who enjoy the lifestyle don’t care to fuck their respective partners during group grope sessions. And that’s fine. But others, like Mr. K and myself, immensely enjoy coming together often throughout playtime. Pun totally intended. If you’re not into that, though, if you are full swap, different room players, disclose that information upfront so prospective playmates can decide whether or not you are a good fit for them.

    6. When a couple says it’s time for them to leave, don’t beg for just two more minutes. It’s kind of creepy. And when your partner whispers “fake an orgasm” into your ear, flex those acting skills, baby, and go for the gold.

    7. And finally, we all know how expensive sexy things are, so when redressing at the end of the night, double check to make sure the lacy, black panties are the same ones you walked in with. Just sayin’.

    Also, on a first date, I strongly caution against inviting your new friends for a sleepover. As fun as it may sound to frolick into the wee hours of the night, it’s just too much way too fucking soon. Keep in mind that they will probably need time alone to reconnect with each other, reflect on the evening, and re-hydrate with a big-ass Coke with lots of ice from the 7-11, erm, maybe.


  3. Dear Nikki: Sexy Time Safety

    February 28, 2014 by Nikki Blue

    Nikki,

    Just a note to ooh and ahh about your blog. I imagine sitting around a kitchen table with you and Heather over a bottle of wine while enjoying (and admittedly being incredibly turned on by) your tales in person. A room filled with laughter and suggestive lip chewing. How fun to have a girlfriend to share your adventures with. Know how grateful I am you two so candidly share via the blog.

    While I have a zillion questions may I ask just one? When you and Mr. K play with others you have referenced condoms. What ground rules did you two establish for ‘protection’ when mingling?

    Thanks in advance!
    Rachel

     

    Dear Rachel,

    Heather and I love, love, LOVE ooh’s and ahh’s! Truthfully, they make us downright giddy. And having a bestie to share the intimate and explicit details of sexy time is totally swoon worthy. Hell, Heather knows the inside of my vagina almost as well as Mr. K. There was even a time when she referred to my updates as “The Vagina Report.” Kind of like Inside Story, but way juicier.

    If you’ve read Vagina Antics for any length of time you know I’m super serious when it comes to safe sex. And because my vag is the delicate flower that it is, arriving at the decision to play with another couple made for bumpier travels than agreeing to share another woman. But the ground rules for protection in both scenarios were simple: No condoms, No penetration.

    For us, the use of condoms when playing with a couple safeguards against more than the possibility of infections. It protects the implicit trust and incredible intimacy we share in private. And that’s something neither of us are willing to trade for a bareback romp with others.

    Fingers, however, are a little more challenging to control. They can slide out of one orifice and into another before it’s realized, so if you’re terribly paranoid like me, I suggest keeping a handy-dandy pack of antibacterial wipes next to the bed for quick swipes in between.

    The use of condoms greatly reduce the risk of acquiring an STI/STD, but HPV and HSV are spread through skin-to-skin contact. This means that even if you’re nekkid dry humping or getting down with some super hot mutual masturbation, HPV and HSV can be transmitted if present. And they don’t always present symptoms which is why protection is an absolute must when expanding your play circle.

    When it comes to opening your bed up to another couple, never assume they are infection/disease free because they’re married or in a long-term relationship. And don’t wait for them to volunteer the information. Step up and ask. It really is that simple. But even then– unless you exchange test results –you only have them at their word. So unless they’re swearing on a bible in front of a Supreme Court judge, protect yourself. Play smart and play it safe.

    Hugs,
    Nikki


  4. Fantasy Becomes Reality: A Night of Swinging

    December 6, 2013 by Nikki Blue

    I’m not going to say how many times I’ve rewritten the beginning of this blog post. I’ve begun posts of the past with those exact words way too many times already. I will, however, say the start of one of the many drafts of this blog post explained what a sexually adventurous couple Mr. K and I are, and how we’re willing to try just about anything together. In one of the drafts, I even broke down the definition of swingers and the variations of swapping. But Heather struck it with her mighty red pen.

    As usual, though, her reasons were dead-on. I needed to write about what Mr. K and I went through as we arrived at the decision to open ourselves to playing with another couple. I didn’t need to give a vocabulary lesson. It didn’t matter how funny “Downtown to Full Swap Town” was; it was unnecessary.

    Mr. K and I longed to frolic together in the juiciness of group sex, but neither one of us had the desire for me to fuck another man. I couldn’t imagine it. So with limits in place– no anal with another, and I needed to be the one to make him orgasm –our unicorn quest began.

    The hunt was fruitless, yielding one epic fail after another and as frustration mounted, we toyed with the idea of opening ourselves to playtime with another couple. But we weren’t certain it was the right thing for us and we forged ahead in our search. As we did, our craving to kiss with a willing unicorn between us shifted. Mr. K wanted the pleasure of laying underneath me, licking my pussy and my juices from another man’s cock. I found the fantasy incredibly arousing and I began to want it, along with much more. I realized whether it was a woman, a man, or both we got busy with, our connection would be solid.

    Deciding it was time to open ourselves to another couple, we searched the swinger networking site for profiles similar to our own. J & B’s was well written and straightforward, so we sent them a note to say hello. To our delight, they were interested and our emails progressed to naughty photographs, and flirty text messages. We discussed safe sex and I pulled anal from the table. Anal play is incredibly special to us and the one thing Mr. K and I weren’t willing to share with others.

    As we made plans to meet them later in the week, Mr. K began to worry. He was afraid my need to please him was shadowing my judgment, that getting naked with another couple wasn’t something I wanted. But I calmed his fears, telling him I would never fuck another just to make him happy. It’s not my nature. Fucking another was something I would do WITH him and I would enjoy every delicious moment.

    I’m pretty sure Best Girlfriend Ever was the next thing out of his mouth, because yeah, I totally am. I have a t-shirt that says so.

    The hotel bar was situated next to the marina and the salty night air blew around us as we got to know each other better. We clicked right away and after a couple of drinks, Mr. K and I followed them hand in hand to their room.

    “What if I can’t get hard?” he asked.

    I laughed. “Yeah, THAT’S not going to be a problem.”

    I sat my toy bag on the chair next to the table. Condoms were laid out neatly on a small silver tray. The packages were colorful, reminding me of a sleeve of Starburst candies. My sensitive vag clenched at the sight of them, but being being the planner I am, I had my own supply. Latex-free, of course.

    We lounged on their bed for awhile. We were fully clothed as we chatted about B’s breast implants, the surgery I would have to replace mine, and how we met our partners. Mr. K rubbed my leg as I rattled on incessantly, wondering who would be the first to disrobe; who would make the first move.

    Admittedly, I was a little nervous and the reality of it caught me by surprise. Why was I anxious? I’d had group sex before, but it was unplanned, hurried, and selfish. I knew the past would pale in comparison to what lay ahead of us. It was also long ago, during a time when I rebelled against myself as I struggled to breathe under weighty confusion. But what struck me the hardest about the past was I wasn’t with someone I loved.

    The doubts in my life had been gone for a long time. I was confident in who I was and in Mr. K’s love for me. I knew there would be no judgment however we chose to play, and it was something we would do together.

    Mr. K pulled me from the bed and undressed me.

    “I love you,” he said, as he held my face in his hands.

    “I know. I love you too.” I smiled and turned to B, untying her dress from around her neck.

    She lay naked against J’s chest on the bed. I ran my hands along her thighs as I parted them, teasing her clit with my tongue. Mr. K dropped to his knees behind me and buried his face in my pussy, quickly making me come.

    What followed can only be described as a whirlwind of tongues, fingers, fucking, blowjobs, and orgasms. J and I sucked Mr. K’s cock while B rode his face, and in the most amazing daisy chain, I fucked B with my strap-on while Mr. K fucked me from behind as J stood on the bed above us with his cock in Mr. K’s mouth. It was the sexiest thing I’d ever seen.

    Throughout the evening, Mr. K pulled me to him and fucked me, giving me the kisses I needed while telling me he loved me. Those moments reassured us both. And the beautiful thing about it all was regardless of who was fucking or sucking who, my hand never left his body. Even if it was only his leg I touched as B rode his cock and J fucked me, I had the connection I needed to feel grounded and safe.

    After hugs, kisses, and promises to stay in touch with our new friends, Mr. K was unusually quiet as we walked to the car. I panicked, immediately assuming the worst. Had we made a mistake? Was he not okay with me having fucked another man after all? What about the orgasms I’d been given? The questions exploded in my brain like an atomic bomb.

    “Are you alright with everything that happened?”

    “Yeah, yeah. I’m good,” he said, as he smiled, wrapping his arms around me. “I promise.”

    I breathed a sigh of relief, his arms confirming his love.

    We relived the details as we drove to a very late dinner. I confessed I felt a small pang when B fucked his face, but I realized even though his sounds of pleasure were the same, they were totally different because it wasn’t me. I felt like a silly high school girl as the jealousy dissipated quickly. He revealed he felt a momentary stab too, but like mine, it passed swiftly and they didn’t take away from the amazing things we shared. We were allowed those flashes because we’re human and quite honestly, knowing we both had them made me feel all warm and fuzzy.

    As incredible as the night was, we agreed it was something we couldn’t do very often. Not because of regret, because there was none. We were just drained; physically, mentally, and emotionally. Plus, my delicate vag was screaming WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU DO TO ME, WOMAN?! from the use of lube and latex condoms.

    Despite the exhaustion, we needed to feel, smell, and taste each other again before we slept. We climbed into the shower in our hotel room, and after the scent and fingerprints of others disappeared down the drain, we fell into bed, the night drawing to a close exactly as we’d planned. Mr. K held me close and we made love skin to skin. He told me how much he loved me and kissed me deeply, giving me the final, most glorious orgasm of the night.


  5. A Field Guide to Hunting Unicorns

    May 2, 2013 by Nikki Blue

    According to the Urban Dictionary, a unicorn is a bisexual person, usually (though not always) female, who is willing to join an existing couple, often with the presumption that this person will date and become sexually involved with both members of that couple, and not demand anything or do anything which might cause problems or inconvenience to that couple. They are mystical, magical creatures, and the pursuit and capture of them can be quite tricky. For Mr. K and I it has been a time consuming and incredibly frustrating safari, and it seems we’ve encountered one disappointing let down after another. There were times we considered giving up the search for a unicorn altogether, questioning the legitimacy of their existence.

    We’ve been hunting them for awhile now and contrary to popular belief, most unicorns don’t have tell-tale marks separating them from the masses, making them easy to spot. They’re not covered in glitter, and they don’t wear pink leather chaps. They are masters in the art of camouflage, and they blend in well among soccer moms and business professionals. There are also different species of unicorns and it’s impossible to distinguish where they fall until you’ve already invested a significant amount of energy into learning their manner. Are they a true unicorn whose knowledge of the Unicorn Handbook is not to be trifled with? Or are they newbies with a holier-than-thou attitude when answering your sext?

    Mr. K longs to experience the magical properties of a unicorn. He wants to pet one and play with it and watch it bow its silky nose in deference to my kick-ass unicorn domination skills. Although I want to fulfill the fantasy for him, sifting through all of the fakes and wingnuts is exhausting, y’all. So, if you’re considering your own quest for the elusive unicorn, the following may save you wasted effort and a tremendous headache. Oh, and bulk up on patience because you’re gonna need it. LOTS of it.

     

    • Unicorns see in magic color vision, so when meeting one for the first time it’s best to wear colors that hold their attention, such as pinks and purples.

     

    • Unicorns love Skittles because they’re the colors of rainbows, obviously.

     

    • Some unicorns are attracted to shiny things and designer bags.

     

    • If a unicorn makes excuses about meeting face to face after sexy emails have been exchanged, or disappears altogether, they’re a dude.

     

    • When the unicorn’s cell phone in their profile photo has an antenna, odds are good that the selfie is WAY outdated.

     

    • Tasers work best in the apprehension of unicorns. They’re more discreet and less bloody than crossbows or so I’ve heard.

     

    • If a unicorn asks to move into your home as a nanny to your kids before ever setting eyes on you, she may have inhaled too much glitter over the years and is now cray-cray.

     

    • If a unicorn says that all play must be bareback because of her “allergy to all condoms,” RUN.

     

     
    Last week, I had a lunch date with a unicorn Mr. K and I recently met on a swinger site. We made arrangements to meet at a neutral location and I wore white jeans because hello, white jeans. And because the myth of unicorns states that they’re lured into captivity by a virgin dressed in white.

    Virgin… *snort*

    Anyway, I chatted with the unicorn about failed marriages, kids, careers and alligators. Her confession that she likes rope play surprised me and I might’ve purred when she said she is submissive in the bedroom. She was, however, quick to point out that she doesn’t like pain, which was a broad statement that I felt needed clarification. Does she consider nipple clamps pain? Spanking? Tit slapping? Being tied to a chair and forced to watch Twilight repeatedly?

    “Define pain.”

    She laughed when I asked, saying all of the above were acceptable except for anything that would leave marks. And sparkly vampires. She’s funny, she has quite a bit of swinging experience, and seems to have a firm grasp of unicorn-ing. She also understands that when Mr. K is in town our time together is precious and she respects that. She is looking forward to meeting us both for a drink to see if they click too.

    The perfect unicorn doesn’t exist (except for my soulmateclone), and the idea of a perfect one is an unattainable fantasy. The right unicorn is a reality, though, and both the hunter and the unicorn should be selective, taking the necessary time to make sure the situation is a good fit for all involved. Is this unicorn the right one for us? Only time will tell for sure, but right now we’re waiting patiently with our family sized bag of Skittles, and when all systems are go, we’ll cast our magic net made from pure fairy dust. Organic, of course.