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What is Vagina Antics all about?


Vagina Antics is a lot of things. It’s my public diary, my confessional, and a place to talk about the darker corners of my sexual closet. Mostly it’s about my personal journey in kink and sex as a divorced, single-mom over 40. I strive to create a sex-positive and kink-positive environment to discuss all sorts of topics revolving around kink, feminism, and sexuality. There are a lot of kinky experiences here, some of which might not appeal to you at all. Hey, that’s ok. I’m just pleased that you’re reading.

This is also a blog in flux as I search for the next step in my sexual evolution. Because believe me, it ain’t over ’til it’s over.

Regardless of what I choose to write about, I promise that you’ll never be bored.



About Heather Cole the author and blogger

When Vagina Antics began in January 2012, Heather was newly divorced and a collared, lifestyle submissive ‘owned’ by a Dominant, identified as M in her posts. She was also dating a Canadian in an open, polyamorous relationship. (I know. It’s shocking. A Canadian!) She struggled to balance creating a new home and a new career while exploring what being kinky meant to her.

These days Heather is still exploring her bisexuality and kink, but her relationships have changed. She just ended a long-term, long-distance D/s relationship and is in the process of re-grouping and assessing what kinky elements work and don’t work for her. She moonlights as an assistant at a private dungeon and some of that gets recorded here. Turns out that she has her Toppish moments with a hearty side of sadism if she really gets going. Of course all of it is under the healthy supervision of the Dominant in charge at the dungeon, Eve.

Heather is a published erotica author and enjoys modeling for her book covers. You can find all her books and her latest release, CONFESSIONS, on her author website at She’s currently working on a historical romance and the third installment of her Come for the World series, ABSOLVED, which combines elements of the spiritual and BDSM.

Heather wrote two columns for Fearless Press: A Kink in the Curves discussed body image and fashion, and At the Crossroads was a monthly column that explored the sensitive place where Catholicism and kink met. She has been published in Safeword Magazine and is developing several other sex-positive collaborations, including a Dating Kinky guide to be released this spring.

On the days that she escapes the thrall of her computer, Heather drinks wine, takes photographs, runs, and spends an inordinate amount of time in the kitchen. They don’t call it the hottest room in the house for nothin’.

*Boob Smoosh*




  1. Mary says:

    Love it!

  2. I gotta have you on the show!!!

  3. This is a very ‘sticky’ site as the computer geeks like to say. Been here for ages and have had a fabulous read. I will come and come again sweeties.

    Clamidia xx

  4. Jay Marz says:

    Happy Anniversary

  5. Rebecca Jones says:

    Do you have an email address?

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  7. Kandy Sparks says:

    Fascinating stuff and lots of great writing here on this blog. I’m looking forward to reading more from you both. Since joining wordpress my eyes surely have been opened and it’s bloody great!
    Keep up the great work.

  8. Katie says:

    Hi there,

    I have really enjoyed reading your blog, actually to the point that I started up my own as I’ve had a rather busy and varied sex life. I admit I’m new at this I would love if you would have a peek and let me know what you think. I have actually posted a link to your site on my front page. If you felt it was worthy of it I would be thrilled if you would link to mine as well.

    Take care and hope to hear from you.


    • Heather Cole says:

      Thanks for the link, Katie! We’re happy that you’re enjoying our blog. I looked at your website and WOW! Beautiful and incredibly sexy. Good luck with your endeavors! ~Heather

  9. Roland says:

    I would be interested in buying some links on - Please contact me.
    Best regards,

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