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A Look Back

February 7, 2014 by Nikki Blue

When Heather and I began Vagina Antics just over two years ago, it took readers some time to learn our personalities which were clearly very different from the start. This dude had it all wrong. Like big time wrong. But looking back at it, I’m not sure what I find more amusing. The part where he said Heather was “obviously the dom,” that we were the same person, or that I identified as a submissive.

<cue hysterical laughter>


Dear Heather:

Is it hard keeping track of both persona’s?  Nikki seems to disappear quite often so you are obviously the dom.  Just an observation.


Dear Anon:

This question made me chuckle a little bit, because I have a hard enough time keeping track of my own shenanigans. If I had to keep up with Nikki’s too…dear Lord, I’d never have time for anything else. The truth is that Nikki and I are two very separate, real people. She is my best friend, and I met her at the same time that I did my Master. In fact, in the early stages of our friendship, we joked about being a threesome. Like the Three Musketeers but naked and fucking. Oh, and not French. The specifics of our meeting are the subject of an upcoming post. You’ll get all the juicy (we like orgasms!) details soon. We “disappear” because both of us have demanding personal lives.

As to the Dom part of your observation, Nikki and I are both submissive in the bedroom. I’m submissive out of it when M is around, but most of the time we’re headstrong, stubborn and independent women. As Nikki has written in her post about eDoms, one shouldn’t make broad assumptions based upon the label “submissive.” This advice applies to all sorts of labels generally speaking, don’t you think? All of us are complex, contradictory humans.

Thanks so much for your question!





  1. Kayla Lords says:

    I adore you both individually and together (there’s a joke in there somewhere). But I’m pretty sure the world couldn’t handle you both as one person. But it would be fun to watch. :)


  2. Dumb Domme says:

    Ha! I love this question.

    I wonder how smug the reader felt at being “smart” enough to suss out your split personalities… but… oh, wait… uh… not so much split personalities.

    That made me laugh. No matter how many personalities you might have between the two of you, I love you both (all 9 of you! There are 9 personalities total, right?).

  3. John Carcosa says:

    I find it interesting how often people mistake submissive in the bedroom for submissive in real life. My wife is very much the bedroom submissive but totally wears the pants in the family outside of it.

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